Happiness: The Completely Free Reward Point System You Need To Join Today

Feb 11, 2019   |    10 min read

How to be happy? What a fantastic question. What is the key to a happy life?

If we asked 100 people this question I believe our survey would say 'get a good job, buy a house, find a partner, and settle down.'

This is the answer isn't it? That's what we've all been taught since an early age.

The only problem is, even after we have these pieces in order, we still feel stressed, anxious, and unfulfilled.

And, when we follow what we've been taught but don't get the results we were promised, us humans naturally lose our way.

We start questioning ourselves and lose confidence in our answers. We're tormented by the knowledge we have deep down that happiness is possible. But, why don't I have it? What's wrong with me?

This is the start of a downward spiral which is often incredibly difficult to get out of. 

The truth is, nothing is wrong with you whatsoever. You just weren't taught how your internal happiness system really works.

Well, that's what this article is all about.

Forget what you've been told about happiness because, if you follow these 8 simple truths, you will be shocked how easy it is to create genuine, long-lasting happiness.

Let's get started...

1

Happiness is like a reward card - you need to collect the points

Happiness it isn't some mystical, esoteric feeling which only seems to benefit a chosen few.

Just like the reward points at your favourite store, you have to earn your happiness!

And just like your reward card; it doesn't care who you are, what you do for work, how much money you have, or what you look like, it will reward you based on your actions.

That means, once you know how to collect points, you can collect as many as you damn well like!

Decide right here, right now that you will entertain the idea of Happiness Reward Points until the end of this article.

Because, I'm about to share with you the secrets to earning the big points, very quickly!

2

Repeated Small actions have more power than big, one-off events

If you and I went out and asked 100 people in the street what they think will give them life-long happiness, what answers do you think we'd hear?

Win the lottery... Have a big house... Travel the world... Find the partner of their dreams...?

Great answers. Any one of these would definitely create a huge boost in happiness points, however they come with a catch.

We naturally adapt to changes very quickly.

Moving into your dream home will net you 100,000 happiness points, but big one-off point boosts expire very quickly.

In 6 months you'll only have 50,000, after 1 year it might be 20,000, before long the happiness boost you received no longer exists.

However, small happiness boosts are much easier to achieve and do not expire as long as you keep topping them up!

So, if you pay someone a genuine complement, you might net yourself 2000 reward points, genuinely complement 2 people per week and after 6 months your complement points will be worth more than the house points!

Some great happiness boosters:

  • Paying someone a genuine complement
  • Meditating
  • Taking a walk in nature
  • Writing down 3 'wins' from your day
  • Writing down 5 positive things about yourself

Start building up your points with little happiness boosters.

Recognize that a huge change will be great, but you can get much more happiness by spending 1 or 2 minutes per day doing little things.

3

Doing things for other people Pays lots of bonus points

When I mentioned paying someone a genuine complement earlier, did you notice a feeling as you read it?

You may not know this; happiness is a system designed to encourage us to do things which keep us alive.

And, one of the biggest aspects of survival for the past 200,000 years was to be a valuable member of a tribe.

This is a topic which we'll be diving into more in another article in the near future but for now I'll just say, your brain rewards you heavily, when you do things for other people.

This can be as simple as holding the door open for someone, saying thank you, treating a friend to lunch, even asking a friend of family member to tell you about their day.

It may not seem like much but believe me when you add a few of these to your day, you will notice a very big increase in happiness points!

Start going out of your way to do nice things for other people.

You may do many things already and think it won't make a difference however, from now on you will be more present as you perform these activities and will notice an increase straight away.

Side note

 

This same system is the reason many people do ridiculous things on social media.

By focusing so much time on celebrities with huge followings, a very old part of their brain thinks they're part of the same tribe and 10,000 likes is the standard.

Posting a regular picture and 'only' getting 50 likes isn't enough, so they often fake their lifestyles, or go to dangerous and/or criminal extremes to get more attention.

You see the same thing with many celebrities too.

In order to maintain the same level of attention, they post more and more provocative images. This then raises the bar for the regular people following them.

4

There's A Reason Why 99% Of Us Feel Better After Spending Time In Nature

"Some old-fashioned things like fresh air and sunshine are hard to beat." - Laura Ingalls Wilder (writer of the Little House on the Prairie series of children's books)

That's so true, isn't it?

How many times have you been told, or told someone, to go and get some fresh air?

This is a happiness booster that parents have known about for centuries!

And in 2006 scientists in Japan took it 1 step further and proved spending time in a forest or woodland area can have a dramatic effect on the human body.

They found that after spending 2 hours in a forest participants had:

  • A boost to their immune system
  • Increased energy
  • Decreased anxiety, depression and anger
  • Reduced stress

And, they even slept better!

Schedule some time each week to take a nice, relaxing walk in nature.

The improvements you will notice from trying this activity will go far beyond those already mentioned.

5

Go out of your way to nurture relationships, The reward Is Big!

I'd imagine you're already aware that relationships are incredibly important, but how often do you nurture your relationships?

In one of the world's longest ever studies of human life, researchers at Harvard came to the conclusion that good relationships, above almost everything else, keep us happier and healthier.

It might not be the type of thing you're used to doing but if you push yourself to do it at first you'll soon see the rewards.

Think of the happiness points you'll rack up by arranging to spend time with a friend, taking them for a nice long walk in the woods and then treating them to coffee afterwards!

And, they get the happiness points too.

Start filling up your diary with time with friends.

You're a busy person, as are your friends and family, so try aiming for just having just 1 catch-up per week. Before long I think you'll find it hard to squeeze people in.

6

schedule time to try Something you've Always Felt An Interest In

This can be anything...

Piano lessons, yoga, a new language, drawing, playing tennis, gardening, fishing, absolutely anything.

By taking action and trying it, not only will you feel a sense of growth and fulfillment, you may also find yourself in a state called 'flow'.

Flow is when you get so engaged in something, time flies by without you even noticing.

Positive psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, describes it as:

"Being completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one. Your whole being is involved."

To me, flow is supercharged meditation...

You're doing something you really enjoy, you're challenging yourself, you're growing, you're increasing your confidence and you're free from negative thoughts, feelings and emotions.

(Before I scare you away, I should let you know that I find flow in vacuuming... I don't know about you but, I find it very therapeutic!)

An insider tip for you here is to commit in advance to trying your activity at least 5 times, it takes time to get comfortable with anything new.

I had always be interested in yoga. It is a centuries old practice, is backed by science, and receives incredible endorsement from virtually all who try it.

However, I was 6' 2" and had the flexibility of a rhino, I knew the first time I went I'd be embarrassed, even in a beginners class.

So, I prepaid for 5 classes, knowing my inner penny pincher would greatly outweigh my inner embarrassment.

And it worked!

The 1st couple of sessions, I was useless. 

By the 3rd session, I was more confident. I knew a few of the moves, my stamina had improved and I could take time to focus on my breathing.

In the weeks that followed I noticed that yoga increased my energy, I felt more positive, I could touch my toes and I had ignited a feeling of adventure and confidence by overcoming my woeful 1st sessions.

However, I know I would not have gone back after the first session had I not committed in the beginning!

Start scheduling time to try things which you've felt you might enjoy in the past.

If you haven’t already, start asking yourself, ‘What have I always wanted to try?' Then get it in the diary!

Side note

 

The technique of 'investing' in something works incredibly well in many areas.

Want to improve an area of your life but can't seem to get around to doing it, or aren't seeing the progress you hoped for? 

Invest an amount you're uncomfortable with losing upfront, and all of the doubts which normally stop you, like looking silly, finding time, having the skill, etc. will disappear.

All you will hear your mind saying is "We already paid, we're going!

You get to improve an area of your life you've always wanted to improve without that voice holding you back every step of the way.

7

What you eat affects your happiness more than you could imagine

You can probably think back to a time when your eyes were too big for your belly and you felt your mood shift as your body struggled to digest the sheer mass of food.

Although that definitely affects your mood, that's not actually what I'm talking about here.

It was discovered fairly recently that the health of your gut affects your mental happiness.

Sounds a bit far fetched doesn't it? We assume happiness is in the mind, how can the gut make a difference?

Well, one of the reasons is that the bacteria in your gut produce a large amount of hormones related to happiness.

We'll create a whole article about this in the near future, as we're already at number 7, let's keep it simple.

As it stands, the 3 most simple and effective ways to improve your gut health and your happiness are to:

  • 1
    Add a yogurt high in probiotics to your diet (think Fage Total Greek Yogurt, Dannon Activia Yogurt)
  • 2
    Make sure you get a good amount of fibre in your diet (vegetables, whole grains)
  • 3
    Cut down on processed food

Cut down on processed foods, add more fibre and, a probiotic yogurt to your diet.

Give this one a little time. A study on a small group of women found they had noticeable improvements after 2 months.

8

Your outlook on life Plays A Big Role In shaping your future

Have you ever had a 'discussion' with friend or loved one who held a completely ridiculous opinion about something...

And, no matter how hard you tried, and how many ways you proved their opinion wrong, they just would not budge?

All you can do is shake your head in disbelief, right?

Well, there's a reason why they wouldn't see sense... 

Us humans have what is called a 'commitment and consistency bias'. 

This means, even when it acts against our best interest, our tendency is to be consistent with our prior commitments, ideas, thoughts, words, and actions.

As we discussed at the beginning of the article, our whole lives, modern society has told us the key to a happy life is to get a good job, buy a house, find a partner, and settle down.

Maybe treating ourselves to some new 'stuff' along the way too...

The ideas presented here go against the consistency bias modern society has worked to install in you.

Even though, deep down, we know happiness is the most important thing in life. That everything we do is in some way a pursuit of happiness, isn't it?

And, if you found out about a series of simple activities which have been proven to increase your happiness, you would do them wouldn't you?

The problem is, many people wouldn't be able to overcome their consistency bias and, instead of taking a series of small steps and increasing their happiness today, will wait to win the lottery.

So, to make sure you don't become one of those people, for step 8 let's forget the previous 7 steps and let's instead work out the 2 or 3 very best exercises for you personally!

Take our free, scientifically proven happiness challenge and discover 5 of the most effective happiness 'exercises' which will start working today!

Let's discuss the article

Happiness: The Completely Free Reward Point System You Need To Join Today

Feb 11, 2019   |    10 min read

How to be happy? What a fantastic question. What is the key to a happy life?

If we asked 100 people this question I believe our survey would say 'get a good job, buy a house, find a partner, and settle down.'

This is the answer isn't it? That's what we've all been taught since an early age.

The only problem is, even after we have these pieces in order, we still feel stressed, anxious, and unfulfilled.

And, when we follow what we've been taught but don't get the results we were promised, us humans naturally lose our way.

We start questioning ourselves and lose confidence in our answers. We're tormented by the knowledge we have deep down that happiness is possible. But, why don't I have it? What's wrong with me?

This is the start of a downward spiral which is often incredibly difficult to get out of. 

The truth is, nothing is wrong with you whatsoever. You just weren't taught how your internal happiness system really works.

Well, that's what this article is all about.

Forget what you've been told about happiness because, if you follow these 8 simple truths, you will be shocked how easy it is to create genuine, long-lasting happiness.

Let's get started...

1

Happiness is like a reward card - you need to collect the points

Happiness it isn't some mystical, esoteric feeling which only seems to benefit a chosen few.

Just like the reward points at your favourite store, you have to earn your happiness!

And just like your reward card; it doesn't care who you are, what you do for work, how much money you have, or what you look like, it will reward you based on your actions.

That means, once you know how to collect points, you can collect as many as you damn well like!

Decide right here, right now that you will entertain the idea of Happiness Reward Points until the end of this article.

Because, I'm about to share with you the secrets to earning the big points, very quickly!

2

Repeated Small actions have more power than big, one-off events

If you and I went out and asked 100 people in the street what they think will give them life-long happiness, what answers do you think we'd hear?

Win the lottery... Have a big house... Travel the world... Find the partner of their dreams...?

Great answers. Any one of these would definitely create a huge boost in happiness points, however they come with a catch.

We naturally adapt to changes very quickly.

Moving into your dream home will net you 100,000 happiness points, but big one-off point boosts expire very quickly.

In 6 months you'll only have 50,000, after 1 year it might be 20,000, before long the happiness boost you received no longer exists.

However, small happiness boosts are much easier to achieve and do not expire as long as you keep topping them up!

So, if you pay someone a genuine complement, you might net yourself 2000 reward points, genuinely complement 2 people per week and after 6 months your complement points will be worth more than the house points!

Some great happiness boosters:

  • Paying someone a genuine complement
  • Meditating
  • Taking a walk in nature
  • Writing down 3 'wins' from your day
  • Writing down 5 positive things about yourself

Start building up your points with little happiness boosters.

Recognize that a huge change will be great, but you can get much more happiness by spending 1 or 2 minutes per day doing little things.

3

Doing things for other people Pays lots of bonus points

When I mentioned paying someone a genuine complement earlier, did you notice a feeling as you read it?

You may not know this; happiness is a system designed to encourage us to do things which keep us alive.

And, one of the biggest aspects of survival for the past 200,000 years was to be a valuable member of a tribe.

This is a topic which we'll be diving into more in another article in the near future but for now I'll just say, your brain rewards you heavily, when you do things for other people.

This can be as simple as holding the door open for someone, saying thank you, treating a friend to lunch, even asking a friend of family member to tell you about their day.

It may not seem like much but believe me when you add a few of these to your day, you will notice a very big increase in happiness points!

Start going out of your way to do nice things for other people.

You may do many things already and think it won't make a difference however, from now on you will be more present as you perform these activities and will notice an increase straight away.

Side note

 

This same system is the reason many people do ridiculous things on social media.

By focusing so much time on celebrities with huge followings, a very old part of their brain thinks they're part of the same tribe and 10,000 likes is the standard.

Posting a regular picture and 'only' getting 50 likes isn't enough, so they often fake their lifestyles, or go to dangerous and/or criminal extremes to get more attention.

You see the same thing with many celebrities too.

In order to maintain the same level of attention, they post more and more provocative images. This then raises the bar for the regular people following them.

4

There's A Reason Why 99% Of Us Feel Better After Spending Time In Nature

"Some old-fashioned things like fresh air and sunshine are hard to beat." - Laura Ingalls Wilder (writer of the Little House on the Prairie series of children's books)

That's so true, isn't it?

How many times have you been told, or told someone, to go and get some fresh air?

This is a happiness booster that parents have known about for centuries!

And in 2006 scientists in Japan took it 1 step further and proved spending time in a forest or woodland area can have a dramatic effect on the human body.

They found that after spending 2 hours in a forest participants had:

  • A boost to their immune system
  • Increased energy
  • Decreased anxiety, depression and anger
  • Reduced stress

And, they even slept better!

Schedule some time each week to take a nice, relaxing walk in nature.

The improvements you will notice from trying this activity will go far beyond those already mentioned.

5

Go out of your way to nurture relationships, The reward Is Big!

I'd imagine you're already aware that relationships are incredibly important, but how often do you nurture your relationships?

In one of the world's longest ever studies of human life, researchers at Harvard came to the conclusion that good relationships, above almost everything else, keep us happier and healthier.

It might not be the type of thing you're used to doing but if you push yourself to do it at first you'll soon see the rewards.

Think of the happiness points you'll rack up by arranging to spend time with a friend, taking them for a nice long walk in the woods and then treating them to coffee afterwards!

And, they get the happiness points too.

Start filling up your diary with time with friends.

You're a busy person, as are your friends and family, so try aiming for just having just 1 catch-up per week. Before long I think you'll find it hard to squeeze people in.

6

schedule time to try Something you've Always Felt An Interest In

This can be anything...

Piano lessons, yoga, a new language, drawing, playing tennis, gardening, fishing, absolutely anything.

By taking action and trying it, not only will you feel a sense of growth and fulfillment, you may also find yourself in a state called 'flow'.

Flow is when you get so engaged in something, time flies by without you even noticing.

Positive psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, describes it as:

"Being completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one. Your whole being is involved."

To me, flow is supercharged meditation...

You're doing something you really enjoy, you're challenging yourself, you're growing, you're increasing your confidence and you're free from negative thoughts, feelings and emotions.

(Before I scare you away, I should let you know that I find flow in vacuuming... I don't know about you but, I find it very therapeutic!)

An insider tip for you here is to commit in advance to trying your activity at least 5 times, it takes time to get comfortable with anything new.

I had always be interested in yoga. It is a centuries old practice, is backed by science, and receives incredible endorsement from virtually all who try it.

However, I was 6' 2" and had the flexibility of a rhino, I knew the first time I went I'd be embarrassed, even in a beginners class.

So, I prepaid for 5 classes, knowing my inner penny pincher would greatly outweigh my inner embarrassment.

And it worked!

The 1st couple of sessions, I was useless.

By the 3rd session, I was more confident. I knew a few of the moves, my stamina had improved and I could take time to focus on my breathing.

In the weeks that followed I noticed that yoga increased my energy, I felt more positive, I could touch my toes and I had ignited a feeling of adventure and confidence by overcoming my woeful 1st sessions.

However, I know I would not have gone back after the first session had I not committed in the beginning!

Start scheduling time to try things which you've felt you might enjoy in the past.

If you haven’t already, start asking yourself, ‘What have I always wanted to try?' Then get it in the diary!

Side note

 

The technique of 'investing' in something works incredibly well in many areas.

Want to improve an area of your life but can't seem to get around to doing it, or aren't seeing the progress you hoped for? 

Invest an amount you're uncomfortable with losing upfront, and all of the doubts which normally stop you, like looking silly, finding time, having the skill, etc. will disappear.

All you will hear your mind saying is "We already paid, we're going!

You get to improve an area of your life you've always wanted to improve without that voice holding you back every step of the way.

7

What you eat affects your happiness more than you could imagine

You can probably think back to a time when your eyes were too big for your belly and you felt your mood shift as your body struggled to digest the sheer mass of food.

Although that definitely affects your mood, that's not actually what I'm talking about here.

It was discovered fairly recently that the health of your gut affects your mental happiness.

Sounds a bit far fetched doesn't it? We assume happiness is in the mind, how can the gut make a difference?

Well, one of the reasons is that the bacteria in your gut produce a large amount of hormones related to happiness.

We'll create a whole article about this in the near future, as we're already at number 7, let's keep it simple.

As it stands, the 3 most simple and effective ways to improve your gut health and your happiness are to:

  • 1
    Add a yogurt high in probiotics to your diet (think Fage Total Greek Yogurt, Dannon Activia Yogurt)
  • 2
    Make sure you get a good amount of fibre in your diet (vegetables, whole grains)
  • 3
    Cut down on processed food

Cut down on processed foods, add more fibre and, a probiotic yogurt to your diet.

Give this one a little time. A study on a small group of women found they had noticeable improvements after 2 months.

8

Your outlook on life Plays A Big Role In shaping your future

Have you ever had a 'discussion' with friend or loved one who held a completely ridiculous opinion about something...

And, no matter how hard you tried, and how many ways you proved their opinion wrong, they just would not budge?

All you can do is shake your head in disbelief, right?

Well, there's a reason why they wouldn't see sense... 

Us humans have what is called a 'commitment and consistency bias'. 

This means, even when it acts against our best interest, our tendency is to be consistent with our prior commitments, ideas, thoughts, words, and actions.

As we discussed at the beginning of the article, our whole lives, modern society has told us the key to a happy life is to get a good job, buy a house, find a partner, and settle down.

Maybe treating ourselves to some new 'stuff' along the way too...

The ideas presented here go against the consistency bias modern society has worked to install in you.

Even though, deep down, we know happiness is the most important thing in life. That everything we do is in some way a pursuit of happiness, isn't it?

And, if you found out about a series of simple activities which have been proven to increase your happiness, you would do them wouldn't you?

The problem is, many people wouldn't be able to overcome their consistency bias and, instead of taking a series of small steps and increasing their happiness today, will wait to win the lottery.

So, to make sure you don't become one of those people, for step 8 let's forget the previous 7 steps and let's instead work out the 2 or 3 very best exercises for you personally!

Take our free, scientifically proven happiness challenge and discover 5 of the most effective happiness 'exercises' which will start working today!

Let's discuss the article